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About Cat

Catherine, aka Cat (San Francisco Bay Area) is halfway between geeky-mad-librarian and eco-friendly, health-forward fashionista; in short, she has a lot of hobbies / interests that collectively culminate well in the #SF area. Left to her own devices, a perfect day would include bikram yoga, dork-out session at a coffee shop, shopping for locally grown organic foods for a random, salivatory recipe she’s never made before, petting up the tabby-cat that runs her life and all while strutting in four inch heeled boots. She also laughs at herself a lot…. and, at the end of the day, thinks you should too. (Laugh, that is… or maybe dancing. Yeah, dancing is good too.)

A Welcome Respite in the Garden of Happiness

My day job is being a tech-savvy digital marketer – I tend to think of it as the costume I wear to support my superhero lifestyle.  Just call me Karla Kent.  But every once in a while, my clever disguise gets to do something amazing.

Last week, I traveled to Shanghai, China with my client to meet with our local marketing teams.  It was my first trip to Asia and, despite being incredibly excited, I had no time to do any research before getting on the plane.  It would be long days of meetings and while I looked forward to savoring the cuisine and learning a few words (hello, please and thank you), I didn’t think there would be any free time to wander and explore. Thankfully, my client is no fool and knows me well; without mentioning it, he carved out time in our agenda and took me to Yu Garden, also known as the Garden of Happiness or the Garden of Peace.

Streets of Shanghai, China

We took the metro to get there and as it was a Chinese holiday, the streets were overwhelmed with people. It was more people than I’d ever seen in one place (outside of a music festival). To get to the Garden, we made our way through the Yuyuan Tourist Mart, curious alleyways of shops and street vendors who cried out to tourists without hesitation, displaying bags and trinkets as spicy aromas filled the air.  I kept a firm clasp on my purse, smiling while politely saying ‘no’ and tried to keep my client’s head in sight, as it was impossible to stay at his side.

Yuyuan Garden

Finally we emerged into a semi-open area where a Starbucks sign was nestled, strikingly out of place, amidst a landscape of classic Chinese architecture. When we entered the Yu Garden, the crowds thinned out and I found myself grateful for the space to move my arms. I am just a little claustrophobic and hadn’t realized the amount of personal space I was accustomed to in the States.

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We took our time through the Garden; pausing at every moment possible to take in the peacefulness and visual beauty. I was delighted by the combination of elements, the careful balance of water and stone; the little bridges and open buildings, artfully decorated and rich with centuries of history.  I practiced with my new Canon DSLR and tried to imagine how it would have felt to live there.

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Afterwards, we lost our way and couldn’t find the exit out, but I didn’t really mind. If you’re ever in Shanghai, I definitely recommend.

Yu Garden
218号 安仁街 Huangpu, Shanghai, China

Hiking Adventures, Presidio National Park

San Francisco is a unique place to live.  Not just because we have three containers for our trash, or are more likely to take public transportation as we are to drive, or that we welcome the expressions of the weird, the strange, the uncommon and the nude; it is the love for a breathing contradiction of dissimilar things in harmony and the resultant creativity that stems from such tension.

For example, the landscape changes considerably from mile to mile; from downtown high rise glass covered buildings to pastel townhouses by the beach, San Francisco has a combination of cosmopolitan luxury and earthy-outdoorsy opportunity.  This past weekend, I took a short jaunt over to Presidio for a leisurely hike to the Golden Gate Bridge.

National Cemetary, Presidio, San Francisco

The Presidio is an urban national park in the northern area of San Francisco, right below the Golden Gate Bridge, and hosts a wealth of history as a US Army post for more than 150 years.  Still within the grounds are a national cemetery and a historic airfield.  You can tour decades of military architecture and hear stories from the 1915 World Fair.

Presidio Bay Area Ridge Trail

For two hours I wandered on the Presidio Bay Area Ridge Trail, covering roughly 5 miles, taking in beautiful views of the Bay and surprisingly lush forests of the Presidio.  The trail was mostly flat, encouraging runners, ramblers (such as myself), and bicyclers.  I was almost run over by two eager young boys on bikes, followed by their apologetically smiling parents, but mostly found the hiking relaxing.  There is something whimsically wonderful to escape the feel of city life without ever really leaving it.

Presidio View, Pacific Ocean

EveryTrail is a great resource if you’re looking for hikes in your local area, including most major U.S. parks.  They also have an iPhone app you can download maps and trails to (in the event you think you might get lost) or to simply track your progress.

Golden Gate Bridge, San Francisco

Without a doubt, I feel blessed to live here.

So you have a new job… What’s next?

Besides working your booty off to impress your new boss, and filling out your insurance paperwork, a new job is more than a new businesses card or an elevator speech to practice, it’s an opportunity to reboot mentally and mix up patterns and behaviors with a new feedback system.  Perhaps it’s a change of pace and shaking out those cobwebs to learn a process that’s different than you’re used to.   Sometimes, it’s appreciating the choice you’ve just made.

As I’ve recently made the switch, here’s a few tips on what to do after you’ve signed the dotted line, setup your email, and assured yourself you’re not nervous at all.

Take in the scenery on your way in.  Even if you think you know the area, there’s likely something you haven’t seen.   Notice how it’s different than the way you went to your last job.  Did you get lost?   Try taking a different route the next day.   See how long until it becomes that same ole street you pass by every day.  That’s the moment you’ve settled into your new job.

Hear No, See No, Speak No

Try bringing your own lunch.  Even if you can afford to eat out every day, paddle through the waters of the brown baggers.  Find the lunch room fridge and figure out the rules – when does it get cleaned out, do you need to label your that juice you brought, is there always coffee brewed, any public snacks?

Be on the look-out for free lunch opportunities.  Depending on the size of your company, there are likely times when a free lunch is the bait for your time and attention.  Take advantage!  You won’t be the only one and it’s a great time to meet your co-workers under a universal banner of “hungry, but feeling cheap”.

Get to know your new neighborhood.   Spend your break walking around or while you’re grabbing the requisite salad and sandwich lunch.  If nothing else, it’s a great chance to offer your skin some vitamin D and a gentle reminder that life does exist outside those four walls.

China Town, SF

Buy new shoes.  Maybe that’s just a girl credo, but refreshing the wardrobe a little is sometimes a necessity and other times, a reward.  Hopefully, your new paycheck has some extra in it.

Have I mentioned cute flats are IN?

Try a new do.  It’s a new environment, new people, what didn’t work at your last place might hit the jackpot here.  It’ll go with the new threads and that inspired feeling will pay dividends in confidence.

Meet the team outside the office.  Most commonly this means attending happy hours.  Or, in my case, it was a fire drill.   Either way, take the time to get to know your coworkers beyond the polite how was your weekend and when you have that tough day, you’ll find you aren’t dealing with it alone.

Make your announcement.  Whether it’s the job you always wanted, a better gig or a way off someone’s couch, update your social networks profiles and tell your friends.  Accept the congratulations with grace and thank them for their support with a celebratory evening.

Instagram that pic of your name on the door. Hurray!

Now go back to work.   You do have a job to do…

 

xo.

 

Single for Valentine’s Day? It’s not the end of the world.

Going through a breakup hurts.  I thought getting through the holidays was agonizing enough but then here you are February, with Valentine’s Day.  It’s more than a stark reminder that I’m alone, more than the stereotypical division between couples and singles; I used to love this holiday.  Forget flowers or chocolates, all I needed were silly romantic moments with the man I loved; this was a day to celebrate each other.  And it’s over, done, fiat.

So, what’s a lady to do now?  Stop crying for one.  And for second…

Friends and More Friends
Friends are your solace, your comfort, your sanity.  Cherish the moments; let your laughter be loud and your smiles be bright.  Your friends will be the ones who will drag you on the dance floor, tempt you with a shot of something dangerous, be that amazing wingman, and at the end of the night, make sure you get home ok.  If they’re still around for breakfast, dub them besties.

(courtesy of someecards)

(courtesy of someecards)

Avoid Your Couple Friends
You love them every other day of the year, but on Valentine’s Day, we can admit our jealousy at their gooey-happy-lovey-ness really isn’t conducive.  It’s not that they are the enemy, they’re just clearly on the winning side.

And, honestly, they’ll be avoiding you.  Instead, relish your singlehood and laugh at them for being suckers.

Deny the Day
If you want to hole up on Valentine’s Day with a bottle of wine, a movie, and a box of kleenex, do it.  But a better idea would be to treat it as any other day.  Avoid the grocery store aisle with the candy hearts and anything that screams red-glitter-box-chocolate-flower-petal-madness; go the gym, read a book, whatever you would normally do on a Thursday night.  If that’s a drunken happy hour with your friends and a hungover Friday, then by all means, keep up with the ritual.

Be Your Own Date
This is for the ladies – throw on your favorite dress; you know which one.  It makes you strut without thinking about it.  If you don’t have one, check out Rent the Runway and indulge in some designer threads.  Plan an evening and take yourself where you want to go.  Treat yourself well, and it reminds you to accept nothing less.

If you’re a fella, well, there’s a lot of single ladies out there.  Just sayin’.

Happy Single Awareness Day

Happy Single Awareness Day (courtesy of Zazzle)

Celebrate Your Life
It’s easy to forget in the emotional ambush of “what’s wrong with you if you’re alone” but before you start questioning yourself, head straight for that thing or activity that you truly enjoy.  The one you do just for you, even if no one else understands or appreciates it.  Happiness comes from the inside and no one has the right to steal your joy.

If All Else Fails, Go See “Warm Bodies”
It’s a movie about a zombie who falls in love with a human.  Sure, it has some romantic moments that may twinge, but think of it as comical inspiration.  If HE can find love, there is definitely hope for you.